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be the change

22/2/2016

I saw this grumpy cat image on a friends Facebook timeline this morning along with the comment "be the change", but what does 'be the change' mean when you're stuck between a rock and a hard place? There is nothing more difficult than trying to make a decision about what needs to be done than when you are feeling lost, drowning in grief or clinically depressed. Pushing yourself to change whatever it is you don't know needs to be changed when suffering from emotional distress only leads to more emotional distress. When you're stuck, you're stuck and the more stressed energy you put into getting unstuck, the greater the feeling of what stuck means will manifest. It sucks to have to accept the unacceptable. It's damned annoying to have to put up with what you never ever wanted to happen to you. The worst is there is no one around who you can depend on to help you in the way that only you know how to. Those who try to help cannot give you what you need or want, no matter how much they do or don't seem to try. Such is the weirdness of feeling loss, grief, depression. It's like you're all alone in the darkness of your mind, waiting for the light to filter in and even though every morning brings the daylight, it's just another bloody day that you feel you could do without. So what can be done when stuck between change and the way things are? Cry your blooming eyes out, that's what. Do whatever it legally takes to let the anger out and the humility in. Change is all about taking control of your own life and this cannot happen when trapped by loss, grief and particularly depression if it is of the clinical kind. Nothing is as simple as it seems and the darkness hurts so much, yet when the change clicks in and seemingly all of its own accord, you will feel like a weight has been lifted, morning has sprung, something inside of your brain has shifted, a spark is emerging from your eyes. This is because the things you don't like are all in your mind. They are all of the things you don't want, don't deserve, should not be entitled to, despite being related to decisions you helped to enable.
One way to begin thinking about getting out of the dark is to find that key message that plays over and over again in our minds eye, during our most toughest of times. The message may be "deny" or "not good enough" or "not allowed" or.. whatever it is you know you "feel" just at that crucial moment of actually getting to do whatever it is that you need or want to do to move forward with your life. You might want to accept the difference, but that damn message isn't going to let you, and this is called a distal force. A force from yesterday when you were dependent on others for your survival. The message that you accepted from your 'carers' as being vital for your survival.
There are two things I don't like, change and the way the things are and they have nothing to do with stepping outside of a comfort zone. Rather those things have everything to do with being outside of the comfort zone already and wanting to get back in. © Chris Tyne 19/02/2016

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Vision Changes

10/2/2016

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There's a saying called “tunnel vision” that suggests those accused of having tunnel vision are not able to, or are refusing to, see the bigger picture in the scheme of things. Then there's this.. "the light at the end of the tunnel is not an illusion, but the tunnel is" , which seems to me to be slightly one sided, given that THE sensor through which light and dark is channeled into our intrinsic selves for changing is called vision.
The immersing of light through the vitreous humor supporting the retina, before it is carried off by the optic nerve into the brain, could further the prosecution of those accused of having tunnel vision as also suffering from delusions, irrespective of whether the illusion was shared by others of a similar vein or not.
Just because one may be accused of having tunnel vision or of not seeing the light enough to be aware that the tunnel isn't real, doesn't mean that, according to the brain, the tunnel doesn't exist. It could be that without the tunnel, the light may not be able to be filtered or shifted into stories inside the mind.
Light impulses into the thinking and memory camps of the mind through 'tunnels' called optic nerves, and while those nerves may seem to stimulate the user of the light with illusionary visions, I'd say they probably also provide, the life force in question, the only truth available to them. In this way, any delusionary tunnel might be the simple act of thinking that you can see the perspective of another because of your ability to communicate personal judgement. A judgement from an optical illusion that I think might, in fact, turn out as having tunnel vision.
The organic connection, all living things have to their own seeing, may well be about the creation of a tunnel vision that life has to cultivate in order to survive its' reality on earth. It may also be that emotional distress, arising from human changes, appears in the mind as a darkened tunnel. Distressed thoughts can light up the human mind with so many images from negatives, that the story arising could be one of tunnel vision. To my way of thinking, when an individual is distressed, for whatever reason, the light in the tunnel is the illusion because of the over focusing of the mind on the bright electrical impulses brought about by dark negatives. The brain lives in the dark and the only light it interprets is that of electrical impulses whether those impulses come from optical or other sensory nerves.
The human ability to manipulate it's own cognitive imagery with traditional and creative memories and thoughts, may very well be why people talk about seeing tunnels and light. Yet, whether the tunnel or the light is the illusion or both or neither, I think what we can all be assured of are our shadows.
© Chris Tyne 05/02/2016

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change the rules, change your life

8/2/2016

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Life is so unfair. People are so ingrained with what they do for a living it's like nature doesn't get a look in these days: but who needs a natural life when there's a living to be made by following the rules. Human societies are full of rules and when something goes wrong, the first course of action is to check out the rules to see whose side they're on. Yet, rules are unfair and justice in itself is about the fairness of punishment which feels like a win when they're on your side. Today, technological advances have taken the art of discretionary conduct away from people who perform rule enforcement. At one time a little advice from a friendly employee was all that was needed to help you on your way. Today, a simple application for a job in government, education or clinical health for example, is no longer about whether or not you have the wisdom and the foresight to make that job your own, but about whether or not you fit the selection criteria, meet the benchmarks of workplace practice, cost less, multi-task more and are young enough to not question the rules. Cynical I know and all Frederick Winslow Taylor's fault if blame is to be ascribed to any change catalyst. Pisces/Aries cusp born Fred (1856 – 1915) was a mechanical engineer who sought to improve perceived industrial era inefficiencies with his Principles of Scientific Management (1911). Taylor's methods, while popular with extreme capitalists, continues to come under criticism from intellectual socialists who are determine to refute the alienation of humanity. I too, am on the side of humanity and think alienation is a rapidly growing problem in the technological 21st Century, where the focus is increasingly and overtly on constantly increasing the economic goals of a nation, as opposed to how that nation can be sustained through a living in harmony with all that live on earth. It could be argued that the earth IS in harmony with nature, with its' human nature to automate life on earth in order to control it. The fact that human controls over others is unfair, depends on what side of the fence you are on and according to earth, I'd say we're all on the wrong side. However, as a human, and in Fred's defense, it could be argued that he helped to further humanities goals by simply doing a damn good job, no matter whether or not the outcome of his work has helped to make your life feel unfair or not.
The Principles of Scientific Management:https://www.gutenberg.org/ebooks/6435

© Chris Tyne 03/02/2016

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I personally don't think she should change

8/2/2016

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It's easy to dance with the devil if you can see him/her clearly. To hide your eyes from the devil means that s/he doesn't get to see who is truly leading the emotional dance. Not acknowledging the devil in others can mean the difference between holding your own ground and loosing ground to the emotions of pain, anger and hate. Hiding your strengths to save the other from challenging your truth, while it may seem altruistic at the time, is essentially a refusal to recognise your own needs for a harmonious if not idealistic life. Unfortunately, the working environment insists that we must integrate and accommodate the most hurtful aspects of others into our daily lives with good grace and we're only human. There is no easy way to dance with a devil that has total control of the dance through status or legitimate power. However, this is not applicable in our relationships should they be relationships of our own choosing and this can be difficult to assess because of cultural conditioning. To regain self-control, the devil must be seen for who s/he truly is outside of your enabling. To trust that s/he will behave in his/her own best interests at all times essentially gives you permission to do the same. To ignore your own needs in favour of the devilish behaviour of another, when in a relationship, is not paying attention to who is truly leading the Balboa. Taking off your blindfold when dancing with the devil, not only allows him/her to see your soul, but also allows you to see his/hers. Only then will you both be able to fully assess whether or not you are hot to trot or not, and in this way hopefully prevent years of grief from the devil and angel within.

© Chris Tyne 02/02/2016

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change your thinking, change your life

8/2/2016

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I think, emotion is a result of a thinking process that interprets feeling in a way that can be shared with others. One huge problem with the linguistics of emotion is how it entangles true feeling, re-routing true feelings into the rationale world of the mind and eventually into a sense of disconnectedness. What humans interpret as emotion in animals is a mis-interpretation of the mammal's very real sensory world of feeling: And animals are extremely sensitive which is why our lack of connectedness with true feeling is torturing them. Human babies and small children share a mammals heightened sensory ability to feel the feelings of others. It is only when the rationale emotive world of linguistic thinking clicks into the minds of humans that we begin to lose this sensitive consciousness and begin to develop ideas and beliefs about our emotional control over the world of feeling. This doesn't become more prevalent than in the self management of chronic pain. It is extremely difficult to share the depth and power chronic pain inflicts on the body, other than through emotive linguistics. Try as you may, no matter how much emotion is expressed, the feeling is unable to be transmitted to another who is only fluent in emotions. This is because words are limited in meaning. In this way, emotions are not remnants of animal instinct, they are a suppression of it. Humans linguistically control the 'animal' instinct with rationale emotive words. "I am angry" a man says when in fact, if he felt his truth instead, he may find that he simply feels tired with the anger more related to his story of injustice.
Emotion is very human while feeling is universal. The fact that humans are so obsessed with their emotions is why they're loosing contact with the pain and suffering their emotive behaviour is having on those who depend on them.
Mammals feel deeply and we share this because we ARE mammals, whether we want to recognise this or not.
Humans control deep feelings with emotive behaviours the most predominant of which is language and how we use language to think and express how we think we are feeling.
Change your thinking, change your life (which represents our cover) is based on the premise that thinking, in your language of culture or choice, can over rule the natural (feeling) order of the body. You can process what you want to see differently by simply shifting your thought processes like the actor of your own play. This is why I think, emotions are not the root of humans, but the creation. Emotions are not a remnant of an animal instinct, but the product of a thinking mind. A mind that has become used to putting tags on feelings, whether those tags clearly identify what is being felt or not. Human language has the power to convince its own mind that what it feels isn't true and nothing is a finer example of this than the industrialised practices of stoicism. http://www.iep.utm.edu/stoicmind/ I'm sure there are other, even better, examples, and if you know of them, please share.
© Chris Tyne 4/02/2016

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mindful change

7/2/2016

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The metaphor is feeling when talking about matters of the heart. The heart fluctuates depending on how you are feeling and people can develop arrhythmia's and murmurs when suffering from an inability to sort through their emotions. While emotions reside in the head because they are essentially language expressions of how people think they are feeling, true feelings do not speak rather they sound. The sounds of 'the heart' generally laugh or cry or scream or beat to its natural rhythm. Following your heart is generally about tuning into your intuition and going with the flow that feels the most comfortable. Unfortunately, most of us are unable to do this because of the societies and culture's we accord to, and so the beat goes on with love not so much the prerogative of the mind but of the heart: For no matter how much your mind may convince you that you love someone, should the feeling not accord to the story, within time your body will respond with whatever it is the heart has been unable to bear. Love is a feeling that can be induced with careful thoughts, but the inducement does have a strain on a heart that doesn't feel the same. While it is impossible to follow the heart in human living, it is possible to be aware of it and do everything mindfully possible to care for it in times of adversity. The heart is extremely important to the mind as it provides the brain with the oxygen it needs to more than adequately function. To afford the heart less importance than the mind, is to not follow it's needs and ignore the solider the mind sorely relies on for its ability to think. In that way the heart does need to be followed because the mind has the capacity to change the way it thinks whereas the heart does not. The heart is fixed in soul and purpose that needs the attention of the thinker to ensure its purpose is not thwarted by forces beyond its control. So while the mind may think it is the leader of the body, the heart holds ultimate control of its life force and without the unrelenting work of heart the mind would simply cease to exist. Therefore follow the heart is good advice from someone who is mindful of its importance not only to their thinking processes, but to their good fortune to have a heart feeding life into their thoughts.

© Chris Tyne 04/02/2016

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change preferences

7/2/2016

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When considering change, one of the most difficult things to see is the reason for personal preferences. Personal preference is so culturally normal to us that it doesn't feel like change, yet preference is the reason why we changed and why we have difficulty with changing. Being aware of personal preferences in times of change can be exactly what is needed, but cannot see for looking. Preferences can also be the force against us that we've become so used to, they can render us powerless and unable to achieve emancipation. This is because preference is expressed or not expressed in accordance to distal forces that most of us have forgotten, or are not aware of. Identifying the truth of personal preferences can be difficult to do when strong distal forces are in power. Distal forces are so much a part of our psychology that the messages they have imprinted into us feel normal. It's who we are. It's the lens through which we express our personality. It's the way we talk to ourselves at night. When present circumstances are nagging, even begging us to change direction, distal forces have the power to keep us in the past. Distal forces represent early childhood conditioning, cultural and sub-cultural re-enforcement, the influential behaviourism of others and our responses to it, and the way our personalities mould our internal worlds in order to survive the beliefs of others. In career development it may be that Fred always wanted to be a Fireman but for some reason he can't bring himself to realise this ambition. He longingly wants to serve others and he's spent most of his life doing exactly that. He's 'served' his parents, his teachers, his friends, his wife, his children... in fact it might be fair to say that Fred is a peace keeper. Yet for all of his harmonious intentions, nothing he does seems to bring him joy. He says he's not big enough, strong enough, tall enough and now he's saying he's not young enough to be the fireman of his dreams. Fred's career counselor, being paid for by the company who recently made him redundant, notes that Fred is fearfully resisting change: Yet is he? Psychologist David Smail would say that Fred is yet another 'victim' of distal forces and it's not so much fear that is preventing him from moving forward, but ingrained practices arising from the messengers of his past. Fred has not only lost his job, but his identity. He feels like he is experiencing ageism in the workplace as well as empty nest syndrome. There is no more future in that ground hog career he suffered every day for the last forty years, and he's missing the sufferance. Fred has been set free yet he feels lost.
Psychologist David Smail says that "psychological distress arises not from illness or personal failure, but as a response to damaging influences from the outside world." He says " the help offered by counsellors and therapists too often stresses the need to change ourselves, but what is needed is not the will to become different but the clarity to see where the true cause of the problem lies"
Although Fred has lost his sufferance, he is so used to depending on it for his sense of identity, the ease he is experiencing feels more like a disease. Plus, not forgetting, he still has bills to pay and he is familiar with the way he has always achieved this in the past.
The complexity of personal change is one where diagnosing others as simply being afraid of change is not taking into consideration that there are distal psychological forces in everyone's head. Those old messages stimulate emotion during times of change, irrespective of what new skills have to be learned. Emotion that even Fred, even as the Fireman he has always wanted to be, would have difficulty bringing under control because of past enacted preferences. Due to the fact that we all live in societies and have survived up until this point, means we all have the distal forces of our own experiences in our heads, whether we're aware of their preferences or not. More info: http://www.davidsmail.info/introfra.htm

© Chris Tyne 31/01/2016

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