One way to begin thinking about getting out of the dark is to find that key message that plays over and over again in our minds eye, during our most toughest of times. The message may be "deny" or "not good enough" or "not allowed" or.. whatever it is you know you "feel" just at that crucial moment of actually getting to do whatever it is that you need or want to do to move forward with your life. You might want to accept the difference, but that damn message isn't going to let you, and this is called a distal force. A force from yesterday when you were dependent on others for your survival. The message that you accepted from your 'carers' as being vital for your survival.
There are two things I don't like, change and the way the things are and they have nothing to do with stepping outside of a comfort zone. Rather those things have everything to do with being outside of the comfort zone already and wanting to get back in. © Chris Tyne 19/02/2016