I experienced the same thing when I was 16, love is selfish ~ Teunis Dokter
Remember the old adage, a rotten apple in the basket can spoil other apples too? Well, this is what we all grew up learning, isn't it? Sorry, I began with an adage that brings about so much negativity in anyone’s eyes and thoughts. But stop! It can only be negative if your thoughts, word patterns and feelings make it be.
Now why do I say this?
Hi, my name is Rohan Noronha, more popularly known as Satin across all my social networking sites.
I am a thirty three year old, self-confident man from India.
Today I would like to share a part of my life with you: A part which taught me how to spread love even in the darkest of times.
Recently I had a very terrible break-up with my soul mate, and I really don’t know if we are meant to be or not, only time will tell. It is natural to think that after a break-up we would both harbour ill-feelings and resentment against one another. I don’t know about my soul mate, but for me I choose to send out only love. Why would I do this? Because I believe that love conquers all.
I don't like to judge or assume anything, yet friends told me that my soul mate was a hypocrite; A "rotten apple". I am grateful for my friends who stood by me through my loss of my soul mate, especially when their words counselled and healed my emotional upheaval. Yet is this enough to erase all wounds?
I would say write back to the one who you think has hurt you, cheated on you or lied to you. Let them know what you are going through, let them know how you feel, but do it with words and thoughts of love.
In loss, there is always a battle from within, and human grieving is to not treat the "crime" with as much offence as a community would treat a criminal. Why throw that "rotten apple" into the bin? Instead, why not take it to fertile soil, where it has the opportunity of germinating with the earth: Where is has the opportunity to provide fodder for the organism of life. Isn't that a better way to make the "rotten apple" feel worthiness? Isn't that a better way to let go of your soul mate with love?
Letting go of what you love with love, helps to prove that love conquers all. So, if you are reading this, know that you can get back to the people in your life who came and went, left you feeling hurt, sad, deprived and depressed, by using your own magical love from within to change it all.
Two things happen when using love to let go.
1. You smile and love and they get annoyed and leave you alone;
2. You smile and love and they melt into realising their mistakes and the patch up is done.
Using love to let go is a win-win situation because when love overpowers negative feelings, believe me nothing can shatter you down.
If your soul mate isn't willing to communicate with you in any form or manner, use love to give them time and space. Turn to love to renew your own time and space in reflective contemplation and meditation of a past when the two of you would embrace, hug, love, make love or go crazy from seeing one another. Reflect on that and keep adding love
fuel to make your feelings of renewal more powerful. When you turn powerful love thoughts into positive memories of a loving past, you are not only worthy of love, you become love.
Who knows, that same person might come back to you, if it is meant to be.
So my friends, before judging and evaluating an upsetting loss of a soul mate, remember the "rotten apple" can be given the opportunity of renewal through love by using your own magical love, because love conquers all.
Love and Blessings.
what the world needs now is love sweet love
Love Sweet Love are the opening words to a popular ballad of a number of years ago. It expresses a desire that virtually everyone holds. But what is love? Judging by the commonly held understanding of "love," the world does not need any more of it! If what is happening in the world is evidence, it is very clear the world has only the foggiest of notions of what love is. If it does know, it is not doing it, or the song would not be making the statement of need.
Love is a much abused term. Because of our experiences, we all have somewhat different ideas about it. The most prevalent notion in the Western world is that love is a warm, topsy-turvy feeling, a thrill one gets in the pit of the stomach or a tingle running up and down the spine. We think of it as a warm sense of regard, a strong desire to be with or be satisfied by someone or something.
Some have equated it with caring, benevolent giving or nothing more than sheer emotionalism. On occasion, we use the term very casually and loosely. People express their "love" for the liturgy of a certain church. Some will say they just "love" ice cream, a certain beer, pizza, style of house, color, automobile, fashion, performer or team. People say they love an endless number of things. What some call "love" a theologian might call unbridled lust.
But these statements become ridiculous once we begin to understand what biblical love is. People's "love" of something is merely an opinion, a preference. A preference is not love, and to use "love" in this way devalues it.
To care about something is not love either. One can care to the point of obsession or lust. A measure of caring must be a part of true love, but by itself, that caring feeling or preference is not love.
Read more: http://www.cgg.org/index.cfm/fuseaction/Library.sr/CT/PERSONAL/k/287/Fruit-of-Spirit-Love.htm#ixzz2EuY5G4AA
Love is a force of nature. However much we may want to, we can not command, demand, or disappear love, any more than we can command the moon and the stars and the wind and the rain to come and go according to our whims. We may have some limited ability to change the weather, but we do so at the risk of upsetting an ecological balance we don't fully understand. Similarly, we can stage a seduction or mount a courtship, but the result is more likely to be infatuation, or two illusions dancing together, than love.
Love is bigger than you are. You can invite love, but you cannot dictate how, when, and where love expresses itself. You can choose to surrender to love, or not, but in the end love strikes like lightening, unpredictable and irrefutable. You can even find yourself loving people you don't like at all. Love does not come with conditions, stipulations, addendum, or codes. Like the sun, love radiates independently of our fears and desires.
Love is inherently free. It cannot be bought, sold, or traded. You cannot make someone love you, nor can you prevent it, for any amount of money. Love cannot be imprisoned nor can it be legislated. Love is not a substance, not a commodity, nor even a marketable power source. Love has no territory, no borders, no quantifiable mass or energy output.
One can buy loyalty, companionship, attention, perhaps even compassion, but love itself cannot be bought.
Love cannot be turned on as a reward. It cannot be turned off as a punishment. Only something else pretending to be love can be used as a lure, as a hook, for bait and switch, imitated, insinuated, but the real deal can never be delivered if it doesn't spring freely from the heart.
Love cares what becomes of you because love knows that we are all interconnected. Love is inherently compassionate and empathic. Love knows that the "other" is also oneself. This is the true nature of love and love itself can not be manipulated or restrained. Love honours the sovereignty of each soul. Love is its own law.
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Why is it that when we fall in love we fall deep into everything they say?
Why is it that we give it our all but in the end we are left with nothing?
Why do we fall in the traps of I love you? You are my everything? My life is not complete without you? it will take me months and years to get over you?
Why do we believe those things so easily? But when it’s all said and done they can just eat up all their words and its meaning?
Why is it that even though we know that something is wrong or there are changes to the relationship and things are just no longer the same, we choose to ignore and just accept those changes because we are too scared to question it.
For weeks or even months we ignore the signs of: -
· No more late night calls.
· No more sweet text messages exchanged.
· No more I love you and I miss you
· No more meaningful conversations.
· Awkward silences when you’re together
· No more weekend plans, cancelled trips.
· No more relationship status on Facebook.
· Photos on Facebook slowly deleted.
We just tell ourselves that they are just probably busy, they are probably just tired from work, no money to go out and whatever other excuses you can think off to make you feel better.
We just make ourselves blinded by the truth and create this little fairytale where everything is ok and we will live happily ever.
How long do we keep going like this? We keep quiet so we don’t get hurt and the fear of losing someone.
At the end you are left blindsided when they tell you that things are no longer the same, the feelings are no longer there, it’s no you - it’s me, I think we need a break.
Changes can be good or bad for a relationship it can mean you’re relationship is maturing and has come to a point you both understand each other. You guys may be over “honeymoon” stage but still you love each other and still want to stay in that relationship together.
While other changes are signs that something is wrong, for others it can be the only way they can express themselves, it maybe their way out of a relationship, they might just be building up the courage to tell you.
You should be able to question these changes and get an honest answer.
Ask them if everything is ok? Are feelings still the same? Why aren’t you messaging anymore? Why did you take this down? Why this and why that? Where did you guys go wrong? What can you do to fix things? Can it still be fixed? Where do you want to go from here?
I always say that communication is important in a relationship, you must be able to express your feelings and thoughts without any hesitations. You must always be prepared for the answers you may not want to hear and you shouldn’t be scared to get hurt. You shouldn’t be naive and think it’s all ok. As much as we want to avoid getting hurt in a relationship and skip all the heartache and crying.
Unfortunately it’s all part of it. I believe that Love is Pain and without pain there is really no love.
It’s those struggles, disappointments and heartache which helps us become stronger, it helps us build our character, it helps us to realise and learn from our mistakes.
By Linda Cole
I have to admit, I'm an advocate for any stray dog or cat – even the ones with aggression issues. I believe pets deserve a second chance when they've been lost or cast aside by their owners. Unfortunately, many aggressive shelter pets will never be adopted. But sometimes the right person comes along who makes a difference in an aggressive dog's life. With trust, patience, respect and love, one person can create small miracles and move mountains. We can change the plight of stray pets, one animal at a time, as long as we don't give up on them. It's worth the time to unravel a troubled mind in order to save a soul. I have worked with both an aggressive dog and cat, and that's one reason why I was drawn to the story I'm about to share with you.
When a stray dog shows up in a neighborhood or at a local shelter, we don't know what they went through living on the streets. Their history is unknown and we have no idea if they were mistreated, abused or became aggressive while on the streets in order to survive. When a dog shows aggression, his behavior is often viewed as a lost cause and he's put down. Most people won't deal with an aggressive dog because they don't know how to help him, or simply don't want to deal with trying to change the dog's behavior. A woman named Heike Munday saw something special in an aggressive dog and rescued her from certain death.
Heike first saw Josie on a snowy day in 2008. She was lost, afraid and hiding in a vacant yard near Heike's home. Josie was not looking for a friend and didn't want anyone's help. She growled to keep strangers at bay and Heike was heartbroken as she sat on a cement slab in an alley, trying and failing to make friends with an angry and fearful dog. Finally, Josie was caught by animal control officers and taken to a local shelter. But Heike had accomplished one small victory, even though she didn't know it at the time. Josie was beginning to trust her.
Josie's aggression didn't improve at the shelter and after failing a test evaluating her temperament, she was deemed too aggressive for adoption. With no hope or plans to try to rehabilitate her and only hours left to live, Heike decided Josie had been through enough. She was Josie's only hope for survival, so she decided to adopt the aggressive dog, even though she knew the road ahead would be long and difficult.
Dealing with an aggressive dog isn't easy. It requires patience and giving the dog space until she feels comfortable around you. Heike had the experience to help Josie work through her aggression issues. She knew the first step was to build trust and all of her interactions with Josie were to work towards building a bond and earning Josie's trust. Heike understood how dogs interact with each other and the importance of non-confrontational touching. Instead of petting Josie, Heike used her knees to rub up against her in the same way dogs bump against each other when they're interacting with each other. Finally, after months of patience, understanding and love, Josie learned to trust and a strong bond began to grow.
It's been three and a half years since Heike rescued Josie from the shelter. She spent hours socializing Josie with other people, dogs and situations. On March 3, 2011, Josie proved that a dog could go from an aggressive and misunderstood dog with only hours to live, to a dog who just earned her Canine Good Citizen Awardfrom the American Kennel Club.
Even a friendly pet can become aggressive in order to survive on the street. Between people driving them away from their homes, kids throwing rocks and other dogs or wild animals chasing them, it's no wonder a dog or cat becomes fearful and/or aggressive. Aggression is one way some animals deal with the cards that have been dealt to them.
Aggressive dogs deserve a second chance. They are worth our time and effort to try and help them heal. Changing a dog's aggressive behavior isn't easy and most likely it was a person who made him aggressive in the first place. Treating aggression means changing a dog's behavior. Sometimes a dog just needs someone with the courage to help him learn how to deal with his fears. Dogs act in the way they were taught and sometimes their aggression is what helps them survive, but they have to learn to let go of it to live in our world. An aggressive dog can be healed, and nothing is impossible when you take the time to understand and earn their trust.