Psychologist David Smail says that "psychological distress arises not from illness or personal failure, but as a response to damaging influences from the outside world." He says " the help offered by counsellors and therapists too often stresses the need to change ourselves, but what is needed is not the will to become different but the clarity to see where the true cause of the problem lies"
Although Fred has lost his sufferance, he is so used to depending on it for his sense of identity, the ease he is experiencing feels more like a disease. Plus, not forgetting, he still has bills to pay and he is familiar with the way he has always achieved this in the past.
The complexity of personal change is one where diagnosing others as simply being afraid of change is not taking into consideration that there are distal psychological forces in everyone's head. Those old messages stimulate emotion during times of change, irrespective of what new skills have to be learned. Emotion that even Fred, even as the Fireman he has always wanted to be, would have difficulty bringing under control because of past enacted preferences. Due to the fact that we all live in societies and have survived up until this point, means we all have the distal forces of our own experiences in our heads, whether we're aware of their preferences or not. More info: http://www.davidsmail.info/introfra.htm
© Chris Tyne 31/01/2016